mixed relationship anyone?
You heard of mixed marriage/relationship before right - malay & chinese; chinese & indian; ang mo kau (mat salleh) & whichever races la.. So that is so so common. But have you ever in a mixed relationship before? Is it difficult? I guess for other races would not be a big a deal.. but for malay it would be a bit difficult. Why do I say so.. Mmm.. Oh well, SIMPLE - if you are a girl, you have to convert yourself and it goes the same thing if you are a guy.Honestly, I been there. It sad to say that the only reason why it ended will always be the "RELIGION" issue. Why? Why it have to be an issue? I'm still wondering. Religion suppose to be in your HEART.. and it's stay there. Not meant to be place at your MOUTH. The reasons are basically either the parents or the person themselves.
Let's see the parents point of view. Why the parents take this as an issue to break someone heart? And that someone is NOT someone but their own children. Why the parents have the heart to do that to their own children? Why? Is it because the "RELIGION"!! Don't they want to see their children happy in their life? Don't they suppose to be happy to see that their children happy with someone that love their children sincerely? What is wrong with parents now these days? Or what is wrong with the "RELIGION"? What makes them the parents think that way?
Now the person point of view. What would you do when this issue arise? Will you back off by breaking up with him/her? "Oh honey, I'm sorry. I can't proceed with you nomore and have a serious relationship, it's my parents. They disagree with our relationship?" - would you say that? Or would you stand up for what you believe for? Would you take the risk to go thru the hazzles? Would you sacrifice? Love need sacrifices. You may have your own reasons why you backing off because at this moment I can't really thing of other reasons except for obeying the parents advice or you "yourself". Don't you think that sometimes you just have to stand up for your life? Why you have to walk away? Why you have to follow what your parents says? I know they are your parents but you have you own life to walk thru, right. Aren't you suppose to make your own decisons and follow it? Will you happy after you let your love one go? Do you have the heart seeing your love one heartbroken in pieces? Or maybe you just don't have any BALLS or GUTS at all? Maybe you just using him/her for something else - maybe money, sex.. etc?
I think.. it will always come back to YOU. WHAT DO YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? Do you want to be the puppet and let the puppet master control your life? Are you happy with that? Again, all the questions will point over to YOU. And YOU the only person should know how to answer all these questions. YOU.....
As for myself, I don't mind having another races as my soulmate. They are still human beings. The only thing that categorized us is the "RELIGION" but we are still human and nothing can changed that. As I said, we need to respect other races/religion but not by mentioning or making a point that "Hey! you can't proceed this relationship with him/her. He/she is different religion.!!" I believed that is not the right way. I maybe have difficulties with my parents or maybe not. But if I do face the difficulties.. as long as I know what really makes me happy.. meaning what makes my heart happy, I will stand up for what I believe in and hoping my partner would do the same thing. I know my partner have to sacrifice slightly more things in his side, but I will always stand beside him "not behind" him nor "not infront" of him but BESIDE him all the way thru. I know it's hard to sustain but if we do it together, the burden will not be that heavy.
There's a movie quote for this - "Marriage/Relationship has less beauty but more safety than a single life; it’s full of sorrows and full of joys. It lies under more burdens, but it is supported by all the strengths of love, and those burdens are delightful."
I hope to all the couples out there, whom still struggling in their relationship - this is for you - "Love is like a battlefield!"....
posted by syaq @ 2:06 PM
6 Comments:
i don't like to comment on this issue...it's too universal and up to the individual. But dear, be very aware when you wrote something... personally, i agree different races in marriage should be no problem BUT... to elaborate more towards what you wrote, i do think it's still too sensitive... which i rather discuss them just the two of us... (this topic still troubles me even now, bcos i do care about you) :o)
Actually faith is in the heart, not religion. Religion is governed by guidelines for a certain way of life. Therefore different religions, different guidelines, different ways of life. Some people may follow a certain religion without faith and some people with faith in a higher power may not have a religion. The important thing here is 'freedom' of belief and practice without the necessity to convert. The parent issue is a poor excuse as we should be able to make up our own minds.
Well, this issue is basically a combination of my experience and bit&pieces from circle of friends. Why can't LOVE conquer when come to this? I guess it'll be too sensitive if I mentioned it more stuffz but what was publish is just thoughts (uncertain/confuse)
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